Research shows that successful people make more choices and are more decisive. The more you do something, the better you get at it, so the more you choose the easier it becomes. You can be better at choosing as well.
Today you will choose. You'll choose a friend, a partner, a doctor, a lawyer, a babysitter, or a date. How do you make these choices--and how can you make them better? Alan Tuerkheimer is a national jury consultant. We both have
Decisions are hard. It's difficult enough to choose a gym, a stroller for your baby, or a restaurant to celebrate your anniversary. But when you have to choose a trainer to help you achieve your target weight, a babysitter to
She was a wonderful doctor, but a terrible public speaker. One on one, person to person, she was kind, strong, confident and clear. But when she had to stand in front of a group to share a message, her voice
"This will never end." You know the feeling. When the 'this' is something that hurts, those four words are the verbalization of despair. When you can't see an end to any type of pain, hope can be hard to find.
I often say that everything I ever needed to know, I learned in the courtroom, at trial. Because trials don't stay in the courtroom. We all face them in our everyday lives. Trials are the challenges we have to overcome.
This week is a little different, because I'm on trial, learning all sorts of lessons we can apply to our lives. I can't wait to share them with you in the coming weeks! One is something I've known for years.
Have you heard the whole controversy about Yanny and Laurel? If you haven't, here is the link. What it comes down to is that because of our ears and the tone of this recording, some people hear Yanny and some hear
Civil lawsuits begin with Complaints. Here, the offended party files a numbered list of all of the ways he has been wronged. The other party responds by admitting, denying, or objecting to that list. As you might expect, there are
"Everyone says I should have been a lawyer. I LOVE to argue." Often, when I tell people I'm a trial attorney, this is their response. They tell me that their families always told them they needed to take their stubborn
When I give keynotes, and especially when I give workshops, I often whip out blindfolds and tell the group we’re going to play some games. They tend to look at each other nervously, silently thinking “I didn’t realize it was
Here’s the story of the Curse of Knowledge…. Question--have you ever heard of the Curse of Knowledge? Before I learned about that Curse, the most I’d heard of curses was from the Brady Bunch. That show, about a man named
Sexual harassment makes you feel small, stressed, and voiceless. When medical providers feel small, stressed and voiceless, people die. I’m a trial attorney, and I’m a woman. Since 76% of all lead trial counsel are men, I know what it’s
I’m getting ready to go to my hosting job at LawandCrime.com, and I know it’s going to be a hard day. For over a week, we’ve been livestreaming the statements of the women who survived being abused by Larry Nassar.
Recently, at The Golden Globes, Oprah got a standing ovation for her rousing speech. These are the words that brought the audience to their feet. “Which brings me to this: What I know for sure is that speaking your truth
“The jury has a verdict.” Everything tingles like your nerves are on fire. Two years of pleadings, interrogatories, depositions, and trial have come to this. Your client stands by your side, waiting to hear the jury’s decree. Win, or lose?
“We need to talk.” “You don’t listen to me.” “I don’t feel like we communicate at all. You only talk to me when you need something, and even then you don’t speak to me nicely.” “I’m not happy.” If it’s
“Tell me the facts and I’ll learn. Tell me the truth and I’ll believe. But tell me a story and it will live in heart forever.” – Native American Proverb A teenage boy, Cody, and a teenage girl, Madison, both
The first time I lost a trial I honestly wasn't sure I'd recover. I'd tried less than 10 jury trials, and I'd been fortunate enough to win them all. This case was different though. During the 2 year period from
"There was porn in the call room the first night I slept there." The call room is the room where doctors sleep, if they have minutes to catch some sleep, when they are on call. When you're the first female
What I remember most about Mr J is his smile. He smiled through his deposition, through the trial, and even when he lost his case. It was more than a smile, really. It was a mischievous grin, especially fitting on
Long ago, I represented a doctor who was....difficult. He was a phenomenal surgeon, world famous in his field, but he was not warm and fuzzy. Not even close. Cold and hard were more his speed. We spent two weeks together,
As a medical malpractice trial lawyer, I've become obsessed with the power of potential. Every time I face the jury, I could be a winner, and I could be a loser. It's both exhilarating and terrifying, and both outcomes are
Good Health Depends on a Good Healthcare Team I was a chubby kid, but my parents still introduced me to lots of sports. Soccer, swimming, tennis, basketball--so many sports, when all I wanted to do was read and eat Doritos.
Sometimes a Snapple cap can change everything. I opened my iced tea, flipped the lid as I always do, and stopped in my tracks. "You are always looking at your nose, your brain just chooses to ignore it." That can't
In the movie Malice, Alec Baldwin plays Dr Jed Hill, a surgeon who gives a famous speech during a deposition in a medical malpractice case. “If you’re looking for God, he was in operating room #2 on November 17th, and
I’ve been in the relationship business since I was sixteen. I waitressed for years, and I’d get better tips based on the relationships I’d built with my customers. I did very well as a waitress, but I didn’t treat my
It's been almost a month since we finished the Rubber Band Challenge, and I'm starting to get antsy. If we want to expand our comfort zones we can't just wait around for them to grow. We have to push them
We did it! We spent 30 days exploring all that we COULD BE. Just like the people who realized that a rubber band could be an eraser, we saw and explored 30 different possibilities for ourselves. Here are all 30
I recently read a study about rubber bands and possibilities. You can see the whole story here, but bottom line is this: when people were told a rubber band IS a rubber band, they didn’t imagine it could also be
My friend, Jennae, is a phenom. She is a dietician, yoga instructor and a dance teacher. She has more energy than anyone else I know, and she has lots of good advice. Her passion is children, and specifically children's diets.
“I dwell in possibility.” Emily Dickinson So do I, for as long as I can remember. When I was a child, I was a voracious reader and my favorite books were about magic, fairies, and angels. As I got older,
Life is about connections. Our family, social, work and on line connections make us happier and healthier. The outcomes of trials hinge on connections. I work with my clients on ways to connect with the jury, because without that connection
Nate McIntyre isn't your typical trainer. He's a musician and his band, Killer Whale, is about to come out with a new video. (He comes by his musical talent honestly--Macy Gray is his sister). That in itself could be enough
Maternal mortality is when women die because of complications from pregnancy or childbirth. It's a problem in Africa--and in Texas. Dr Gregg Alleyne is a doctor in Philadelphia. He works as an obstetrician and gynecologist at Drexel University. Dr Alleyne
My mom spent her life as a teacher in the public school system. She never talked about her salary, but she was underpaid. She taught emotionally disturbed high school students in the resource room. Her days were stressful and sometimes
OATHS HAVE POWER Lawyers take oaths. Jurors do as well. In Philadelphia, where I try cases most often, jurors pledge to “well and truly try the case”. I can tell you that jurors take this oath very seriously. Medical malpractice
Man it's been a rough week. Most of us are sleep deprived from staying up way too late waiting for election returns. Many are heartbroken about the result. In fact, The Washington Post is reporting that the National Suicide Prevention
Hi guys--working on today's newsletter and video. I think you're going to love it. My friend Dr Kelly Powers sat down to talk to us about the power of laughter. Seems like we all could use some of that after
I met Rick Ungar when I was a regular panelist on The Daily Wrap, a show he co-hosted on the Newsmax channel. He is a liberal voice on a channel that’s been known to lean towards the conservative viewpoint, and
“It’s very important to me to equate life with life.” When Dr Owen Montgomery said this in our recent interview, it stuck with me. What does that mean? Do I do that? Do I equate life with life? For the
It all begins with friction - the resistance that is created when two objects meet. That friction creates a spark, and if you feed that spark with oxygen you get fire. In the right environment, a spark can change the