“God could have made us stone creatures, tree creatures, sea creatures, winged creatures, but God made us speech creatures instead. Human beings made in God’s own likeness, which is to say, capable of joining God in the work of creation by speaking things into being ourselves.” (from Jonathan Merritt’s book, Learning to Speak God from Scratch, quoting Barbara Brown Taylor). We create by speaking things into being.

Any good trial attorney knows the power of words. I’ll never forget one trial I had early in my career. The patient’s attorney had my doctor on the stand, cross examining him with vigor. He was trying to get him to agree with something, and using the doctor’s own deposition to do so. But in reading the doctor’s deposition to the doctor and the jury, he was leaving words out. I objected, because words have meaning. EVERY WORD had meaning.

Words win and lose cases. Words create realities. We must be very aware of what we are creating with ours. Merritt’s book quoted above, is about sacred words and how they are vanishing. But his book is worth reading no matter what your spiritual outlook. Because, as he explains, words do create our reality. His book brought me to the work of Lera Boroditsky, a linguist with a fabulous TED talk on language. She relays that when Americans are asked to point north, most of us don’t have a clue But when a community on the Western shores of Australia’s Cape York was asked to point north, children as young as 5 were able to do so. Their language uses the points on a compass the way we use left and right. And thus, they are aware of north at all times. What you talk about becomes a part of you.

TODAY’S CHALLENGE–TRY TO BE AWARE OF THE WORDS YOU USE. If you want to know north, you speak about north. If you want to know happiness, strength, community, or love, speak about these things.

What words do you use, and how do they serve you? Are there words that would better serve you, and things you would rather create? Share with us what it is you’d like to speak into existence. In Hebrew, Abracadabra means I create what I speak. Abracadabra indeed.

Share with us, and with your friends. Help your loved ones use their words to create reality too. Remind them that it’s never too late to join the challenge, and if they choose only one day today is as good as any. See you tomorrow.

7 thoughts on “TRIAL DAY 18-WORDS CREATE REALITIES

  1. Love your part on omission and legal argument! I heard of a legal argument regarding grammar, also. It had to do with whether there was a comma after the third word before the and (i.e. eggs, toast, butter, and salt. Vs. eggs, toast, butter and salt)

    It is so wonderful you introduced this by G-d brought the world into being by speech and your abracadabra example. I learned the same thing. Abracadabra does mean “I will create what was spoken.” It was first spoken aloud in Aramaic, which came from and sounds similar in Hebrew.

    There is good news. Sacred words are not vanishing in my world of Judasim. They are increasing BIG TIME. Hopefully these words will remain contagious.

    To the assignment:
    1. What words do you use, and how do they serve you?
    Words I use:
    • You need to:
    • Come on. We have to do this.
    • No, It’s this way.
    • Why xyz? (Sounds like doubting)
    How do they serve me?
    • Not well.
    • They always need a follow-up argument, which everyone loses, or at least feel bad about.

    2. Are there words that would better serve you, and things you would rather create?
    Be-with words, i.e. having the person’s life and needs in mind. This leads to CO-CREATIING, co-inspiring, co-solving, co-innovating – I/you get the picture.
    For example:
    • Would you consider?
    • What do you think?
    • What do you prefer?
    With these words, I would rather create harmony, connection, and partnership. These words create that.
    Also, giving feedback on a person’s wisdom of words and what s/he created via words encourages more of it by them and by me. Just noting and noticing makes a big difference in creating the future.
    ALSO:
    • Simply speaking coherently and caring to get the point across, i.e. taking the time, listening, asking and answering questions of the other person, makes all the difference. I have unexpectedly gotten work this way.
    • Actual caring shows, and it is effective.
    • Pretending to care also shows. It shows in word choice, facial expression, and intonation. Not only that, pretending to care is ineffective and is a setback.
    • Oh, and responding to the other person rather than having my own story to relate, is awesomely effective!
    KEY WORDS: “BE WITH.” I think it’s that simple!

    3. Share with us what it is you’d like to speak into existence.
    I would like to speak into existence:
    • Harmony – “Be with them” words.
    • Reliability – Do what I say I will do 99% of the time.
    • Engagement – Ask for help with what the person is good at.
    • Appreciation-giving – Appreciate what people do. I don’t mean by constantly saying “thank you” for everything. I am learning what authentic appreciation is. What it is NOT, is overdoing it.
    • Action – Doing what I say and somehow making known the positive results (NOT by bragging or listing).
    • Attention-giving – Noticing and noting the results AND what the results have lead to.
    • Allowance of “coming to realize” that something has happened because of words, intonation, and a good face.

  2. I love your part on omission and legal argument! I heard of a legal argument regarding grammar, also. It had to do with whether there was a comma after the third word before the and (i.e. eggs, toast, butter, and salt. Vs. eggs, toast, butter and salt)

    It is so wonderful you introduced this by G-d brought the world into being by speech and your abracadabra example. I learned the same thing. Abracadabra does mean “I will create what was spoken.” It was first spoken aloud in Aramaic, which came from and sounds similar in Hebrew.

    There is good news. Sacred words are not vanishing in my world of Judasim. They are increasing BIG TIME. Hopefully these words will remain contagious.

    To the assignment:

    1. What words do you use, and how do they serve you?
    Words I use:
    • You need to:
    • Come on. We have to do this.
    • No, It’s this way.
    • Why xyz? (Sounds like doubting)
    How do they serve me?
    • Not well.
    • They always need a follow-up argument, which everyone loses, or at least feel bad about.

    2. Are there words that would better serve you, and things you would rather create?
    Be-with words, i.e. having the person’s life and needs in mind. This leads to CO-CREATIING, co-inspiring, co-solving, co-innovating – I/you get the picture.
    For example:
    • Would you consider?
    • What do you think?
    • What do you prefer?
    With these words, I would rather create harmony, connection, and partnership. These words create that.
    Also, giving feedback on a person’s wisdom of words and what s/he created via words encourages more of it by them and by me. Just noting and noticing makes a big difference in creating the future.

    ALSO:
    • Simply speaking coherently and caring to get the point across, i.e. taking the time, listening, asking and answering questions of the other person, makes all the difference. I have unexpectedly gotten work this way.
    • Actual caring shows, and it is effective.
    • Pretending to care also shows. It shows in word choice, facial expression, and intonation. Not only that, pretending to care is ineffective and is a setback.
    • Oh, and responding to the other person rather than having my own story to relate, is awesomely effective!
    • Ask for and willingly accept help. Acknowledge kindness.
    • Reduce “ya, but,” “but,” and “yes but,” to zero. Learn to use “and” instead.
    • Allow for “mistakes” without shaming the person… No reprimands or face-making!
    • AND timing matters!
    KEY WORDS: “BE WITH.” I think it’s that simple!

    3. Share with us what it is you’d like to speak into existence.
    I would like to speak into existence:
    • Harmony – “Be with them” words.
    • Reliability – Do what I say I will do 99% of the time.
    • Engagement – Ask for help with what the person is good at.
    • Appreciation-giving – Appreciate what people do. I don’t mean by constantly saying “thank you” for everything. I am learning what authentic appreciation is. What it is NOT, is overdoing it.
    • Action – Doing what I say and somehow making known the positive results (NOT by bragging or listing).
    • Attention-giving – Noticing and noting the results AND what the results have lead to.
    • Allowance of “coming to realize” that something has happened because of words, intonation, and a good face.

  3. We hear the question almost every day and usually many times a day. – “how are you?” and the typical answer is “fine”. I now say “blessed” instead after hearing a talk a few years ago. While he reminded us all of our blessings and challenged us on what “fine” meant, I started to try to adjust my speech. So now I notice my blessings more and bring a smile occasionally to someone else who realizes their blessings too.

    That being said, I don’t way “thank you” near enough. I think it, but I need to let people know in words.

  4. I was at a City Hall Meeting, speaking to and at several people and was absolutely cognizant of everything that came out of my mouth! Very interesting, I found myself because I was able to alter my speech or words throwing out the junk sticking to the meat. Less is more sometimes.. I loved this exercise and I think I
    I so benefitted from it in one Nighy…now to make it mine so I can use it all the time!

    1. Good for you Pat! You’ve always been unafraid to use your words to help others, and glad this helped you do it even more effectively

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