Can you believe that this challenge is over? I’ll be sending an email this weekend about the surprises I’d promised but for now–our last challenge. Lots of our challenges have brought us to this point. Making objections, asking questions, and using your voice are all skills you must learn in order to be a strong advocate. But even with these skills, it can be hard to advocate for yourself.

You’ll fight for your friends, but not your own freedom. You’ll do anything for your team, but not your own needs. And you’ll battle to the death for your children, but not for your own perspective to be heard and honored. When we’re done advocating for others, we often have nothing left to advocate for ourselves. 

Today’s challenge–TRY TO ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF.  It starts with being prepared. Know what you feel strongly enough about that you’re willing to fight for yourself. Not everything deserves a fight, but when you know what does you are more ready for battle. Then, know your argument, and the counter argument. When you have that kind of preparation, you’re ready for the moments when you lose your train of thought.  Be patient, with yourself and with others. And finally, look at things from as many points of view as possible. Gain perspective, and your advocacy is more likely to succeed.

Once you’ve stood up, used your voice and set your own boundaries, you find the power to do so for others. Be your own best advocate.

 

How will you advocate for yourself today?

3 thoughts on “TRIAL DAY 30-ADVOCATE

  1. Heather, Thank you or the 30 Day Trial Challenge. Awesome teachings with each day. I will keep them close when encountering challenges: )) Thank you for bringing your valuable knowledge to us.

  2. Know my argument:
    Many people are becoming their own worst enemy. As a result, they make themselves irrelevant, all the while holding themselves on a pedestal, never seeing their situation. Worse yet, they drive others down, too. Many assume and pre-decide a verdict. A knee jerk spiral begins maybe with anger. It continues with other disruptions, finally turning into back stabbing. Perhaps the person, without a word, expects a certain behavior or something else. He or she goes on the attack. When the expected doesn’t happen, he or she complains to others (gossips). A group attack can emerge and spread, subtly and disturbingly.

    It has become more and more difficult to have meaningful conversations. Furthermore, it is increasingly difficult bring about something new and bold and have people engage with it. Even the smartest people are sensitive and think within a tiny box. It’s a lot about convenience, and much more.

    I don’t want it to be, that people don’t see where they are at and where they can go, all the while noting their discomfort and spreading it to others. .

    Know the counter arguments. (I’ll be ready for the moments when I lose my train of thought).
    “My assumption is right. The person deserves ‘punishment.’”
    I’m good. I don’t need this arduous task of understanding.

    Be patient with myself and with others:
    This is the hardest of all things.

    Look at things from as many points of view as possible:
    I see long term mind broadening as something people do when they are ready. Some will never be ready. Some are happy where they are.
    Many more points to come.

    Gain perspective:
    I will go over the obstacles at the outset, and it isn’t an obstacle anyway.

    My advocacy is likely to succeed:
    In whatever small way, I intend to succeed. I aim to bring things out of hiding. When there is no tool, I’ll make one.

    Marshall Goldsmith wrote a book called, “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There.”

    The book I imagine writing is “What Didn’t Get Me There Got Me Here.” I was a sore thumb outlier until now, but I stayed that way (no credit to me — couldn’t help it).

    My “here:” I am fortunate to work with imaginative, fearless, persistent, innovative thought leaders. We work forward together.

    I say, “Be relevant. Continually develop a broad and agile mind to thrive in this VUCA world (volatility uncertainty complexity, ambiguity).”

    Thank you Heather, for your courage, generosity, persistence, and intelligence.

  3. Thank you Heather, the 30 Day trial was very thought provoking. I enjoyed everyday and there were days it was exactly what I needed.

    Take care
    Jayne

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